Advice please on Engagement pertaining to Sex before marriage!?

I have become engaged to my wonderful boyfriend just last week.We are both 29. I am a virgin and he has past relationships but I accepted that. I am quite a moderate conservative and he grew up in a liberal environment but share the same Asian roots that's why he said he respects and understands me. I know he loves me so much. Now: When we are planning when our wedding would be, I had the impression that he wants to make sure if I was really, truly in love with him! He is very affectionate and expressive. I tell him I love him but he sounded not too convinced everytime and want me to reassure him. I felt he wanted to feel ';bonded'; to me in the form of sex. I want to wait until marriage but it seems that there will be no wedding date yet until we don't make love. How do I handle this? Even if I wanted to save the best for last, but thinking that we are engaged does this warrant that we can make love because we are good as married due to the commitment? Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!Advice please on Engagement pertaining to Sex before marriage!?
Boy, is he laying a line of crap on you. Lady, you are every man's dream. Hold on to what you have and if he really loves you he'll wait. Believe me, he will respect you more for not giving in to his horny, selfish attitude.Advice please on Engagement pertaining to Sex before marriage!?
If he won't marry you until you have sex with him, how can you trust him to honor his commitment and follow through with the marriage? Not to be crude, but haven't you heard the old joke about the difference between a cheap bottle of wine and a virgin is you can unscrew the wine? If maintaining your virginity until marriage is important to you and your fiancee has had a relationship with you in spite of no sexual activity up to now, why the requirement to have sex before you marry? If you are not suspicious of his motives, you should be.
go to las vegas, get married and let him have it.





go back home and have the planned marriage.





this way you will have sex and marriage.





what do you think.
you should stand with what you want and what you believe in. Tell him what you want and talk about it.





remember you took care of yourself (virginity) for 29 years and save it till the wedding night. It will be your loss if you do it and no wedding day will take place.





In everything you do think twice.
DONT ever commit the mistake of givin in before marriage...since u know this guy has been involved in previous relationship, did he marry any of them???? and an engagement doesnt guarantee a marriage does it??? so ask him to wait, tell him if he loves u he has to wait till he marries u, Once the wedding date is set...tell him its just few dayz and then u can go ahead without guilt and tension...in a few words DONT DO IT
HEY IM PROUD OF YOU FOR WAITING AND U SHOULD BE ALSO!!! IF ITS YOUR CONVITION TO WAIT TILL YOUR WEDDING NIGHT THEN GO WITH YOUR INSTINCTS! IF HE REALLY DOES LOVE U HE WILL UNDERSTAND!
If he loves you he will respect your wishes on this. Do not do anything that you do not want to do with your whole being.
no giv him the one thing that you hold special for marriage. you can only incourage him by telling him its something that is just for him on that special night. if he wants it that bad then he can marry you at a court house and then you plan a wedding for a later date.
first i would like to say that i commend you for holding out so long! it shows that you respect yourself deeply. now you have to think about what YOU feel is the right thing to do with regards to sex before marriage. if it is something that you feel comfortable doing with him,before marriage and it would not compromise your beliefs, then do what makes YOU feel comfortable. but Dont let him give you ultimatums! (it sounds like he doesnt want to set a date until you have sex with him first) if thats the attitude he wants to take then you have more to think about: whether you want to marry a guy who wants to pressure you into something.





i understand his point of view though, you are both making a lifetime committment and he wants to be sure the sex is good before getting hitched. Sex can be a wonderful thing, with the right person, so dont take it lightly. if you do decide to have sex before marriage, its not a terrible thing... just do what makes YOU comfortable and dont compromise yourself for anyone! if he loves you, he will understand.. in the end you will make the right decision. good luck
If he really loves you like he says he does, he will wait for sex till you are married. I know this is old fashioned thinking in some peoples opinion, but I don't care!! There are times when old fashioned is better!!!!
If you have waited this long, continue doing so. This is obviously something that is very important to you and you don't want to compromise your morals. Also, you don't want to do anything you may regret later. Like asking yourself why you couldn't just wait... Don't let him convince you it's time. Make him respect you as a person. How long have you been together? If he's waited for you, what's another 6 months or year. But maybe try to throw in some very sensual time together. Like a massage, candles, dinner, snuggling....

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