well explaining that you are in a long term relationship with a girl..it changes things a bit. If you guys have done this before then them getting married and wanting to help you and your partner achieve this goal of motherhood is up to you and them. I think that you should ask them if it is ok if after they are married if he can still help you..after all if you cant trust your best friend who can you trust? Good luck i am for it You are not disgusting or thinking of yourself. it is physically impossible for you and you love to have a baby so more power to you and more power to them for being so accepting and willing to help someone become a mother it is a wonderful thing. I dont think you are thinking of yourself at all.Friends and marriages...please help me with good advice..?
There is such a thing as artificial insemination.
You're a freak and should be sterilized. STOP HAVING CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK!!! Kids should have the chance to have a mother AND father. You're just being selfish - thinking of yourself and not the better interest of your baby.
Wait until you find someone, then have kids. If you don't find someone, that's too damn bad. You want to take care of your kid? Start now by not having it.
Do you really want this guy as your kids father? Just wait until you find your own man. Whats the rush bringing a baby into a circumstance like that? Think about it, if your doing something like what your saying, You DON'T deserve a child.
honestly I don't think you should have children. you choose to be in a relationship with a woman, so you gave up your rights to be a mother. Why should a child have to come up confused because you choose to get your private area eaten out by a woman? Children don't deserve that, because he or she is going to come out confused... Growing up seeing mommy kiss another girl but learning that babies are made by a man and a woman.. IF you want to have children be with a man and stop using them for there sperm.. I don't have a problem with people who choose to be gay. I have an issue when you try to cross lives... Live on one side of the fence... Stop trying to combine the two...
why do you think a man would have a problem having sex with another woman no strings attached? He wouldn't ! but anyway I can't see why you would continue once he is married, I can't see why you doing this is the first place. It is too personal and we are only human there are automatically going to be some ill feelings towards the situation in the long run. I think that you are making a very big mistake and playing with fire. try another method like your own husband.
There's going to be a lot of hurt feelings, use artificial insemination or get pregnant the regular way with someone else. Do you have all this in legal writing?
You are asking for trouble, why bring a little baby in the world in a situation like that? He is getting married, don't you think he or she may sue one day for custody? My advice is find someone who has no ties to anyone, and why cant you just wait to have a child with someone you really love and are compatible with? Really strange question you are asking. It won't work the way you guys plan on doing this, never sleep with a best friend it ruins everything, trust etc..
If they get married no do not sleep with him, you would be disrespecting his wife and it could cause his relationship problems..
Are you insane? There are other ways to get pregnant and have a child. Don't use your friend, and especially if he's getting married to someone else..UUGGHHH!
In this day and age you do not have to sleep with someone to have their child. If you love your friend and respect that he is getting married you should understand how his fiance feels. I think if I were in her shoes I would feel threatened as well. If hes just a friend you should not sleep with him it only complicates things. Get artificially inseminated.
Having sex with him will changes everything. Don't do it. Nothing will be the same after you make love with him, after his married. If you need to be a mother, get your own husband and be pregnant by your husband's sperm. It'll lawfully, gracefully and godfully. To have a baby is a different thing from to have a life with a baby. Think twice.
Rather than having sex with him, try artificial insemination. He donates his sperm to you, and it gets implanted. I don't think it's a good idea to have sex with him, especially after he's married.
There are other ways to get pregnant besides actually having sex with the guy. Maybe you should explore some of those options. You don't want to become a issue in their marriage later. It does seem inappropriate.
Talk to the fiance about it.
You can save a lot of hassle by opting for IUI (Intra Uterine Implant) or IVF (In Vitro Fertilisation) - that way you will never have to sleep with him or for that matter, feel guilty either.
If you are not comfortable sleeping with him AFTER the wedding, then you shouldn't do it. He can father a child for you without actually having sex, it's just more difficult.
I wish you luck--you sound like your head's on straight %26amp; you'll be a good Mommy!
No you should not sleep with him at all. This is just sick and wrong. wait till marriage to get pregnant and have a baby with your husband.
Get out of the whole situation now.You are being extremely selfish and only thinking of your wants.The child you have deserves to start out life with it's own father and mother in a commitment towards each other.Sooner or later the relationship between the three of you will be troubled and where then will the child be? in the middle of situations caused by the very adults that are suppose to protect them .If you want to have a child and can't seem to find a man of your own then perhaps you should wait until the Creator sends you a child without the complications of hurting others.If you do go ahead and have a child without a relationship,then don't use your friend and put his future marriage in jeopardy.
No!!!!!!!
you should not sleep with him!
Can you find a partner other than your friend? And ,wont you want a family of your own? Maybe if you ask yourself these questions ,you might come up with an answer!
why dont you get pregnant on your own are you lesbian well i dont see any problem with it just seems strange
You shouldn't be having sex with him at all. He can donate sperm.
dont sleep wz him after they r married.
I think you already have the answer. The fact that you are doubting and having reservations about the situation is a bad sign, I think you know you should not be sleeping with a married man, best friend or not, it is a slippery slope. I would look into going to a sperm bank and/or other options.
You are going to have a baby with this friend, a friend who has no ties to you other than friendship. He's not family, he's planning on marrying someone else, he could WALK AWAY at any time. You are not even beginning to think of the baby, you are being SELFISH and thinking only of yourself. You want a baby....what about this child, doesn't this child deserve some type of committment from a mom and a dad? To knowingly plan to bring a baby in the world just because you want one, without any thought to how this will affect the baby is just unbelievably selfish to me. When that child reaches the age of 5 and starts asking deep questions, you will have very lame answers. When all the other kids in school talk about mommy and daddy....it will be difficult. BUT YOU DON'T CARE, you just brush it aside. AND, what happens if your best friend ends up having kids with his fiance/wife. You don't think she's going to start having problems with this whole situations, feeling protective of her own kids. It's a mess waiting to happen. I think you are being very foolish....and I'm sorry you lost your first baby, I know that pain firsthand, but I think you are doing this for all THE WRONG REASONS.
This is a recipe for disaster....what lawyer have you consulted....better yet....what lawyer has HE consulted? Does he realize he is financially responsible for this child-to-be until the age of 18???? Doesn't sound like it.
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