A friend keeps calling about her marriage problem, but I'm running out of advice. Can you help her?

They've been married for about 4-5 years, have a 3 year old daughter. The husband is my hubby's long time best friend.


The wife is also their long time friend (childhood friend?).





They both work while the husband's mom takes care of their daughter. Wife works in a restaurant (10 to 8), husband work with my hubby (9 to 5) and occasionally do a part time (6-9) .


They rarely speak because when one wakes up, the other has left, and when one comes home, the other has slept.





One day, wife found motel bills in husband's account and suspected cheating. Instead of talking to him, she packed her bag, left the house (completely oblivious that her child lives there too...) and went to her sis and told everyone in her family that her husband had cheated on her.





Her brother then came to confront the husband and had a fight. Husband got so pissed off and filed for divorce. His reason, however, was because his wife never took care of their house nor their daughter.





Any chance of peace?A friend keeps calling about her marriage problem, but I'm running out of advice. Can you help her?
i just like to remind you that we are not talking about only the two of them... we are talking about the family... this case 3 of them... why don't we decide if in voting... vote #1 is for the dad, vote #2 is for mom and vote #3 is for the daughter. of course we all knew that the child will vote for ';stay'; as in family stays together... now we only need one vote to ';stay'; wins... and still yet its up to them... i grow-up in a broken family... when my family decide to separate i did int even had a chance to vote... i did not live a miserable life but i'm sure if mom and dad were together it will be more fun... as an adult and now separated... i've wish i had someone tell me before to ';stay';... again the line of communication broke... try to keep the line of communication open... no matter whats the differenceses you had...A friend keeps calling about her marriage problem, but I'm running out of advice. Can you help her?
Why would she not present him with the bills and ask him what was going on? it sounds like there is a big communication problem. What did the guy say about the hotel bills?? People don't need to fight about this, they really need to talk. It also sounds like he doesn't want to make amends because he filed for divorce. Maybe there were a lot more problems in the marriage before all this came into play. I would just listen to her and comfort her. She/he has already done too much to go back now. Just listen to her and tell her that everything is going to be ok.
No peace they will learn after awhile to haev peace for the childs sake but that will be later on after they have gotten real nasty with each other
Suggest counseling. This is the only hope for them.
It sounds like the marriage is doomed. If he was cheating she should leave. It sounds like it will be down and dirty and a bad break up.





If they are meant to be together the only thing I can see and suggest is they seek counseling. If the hubby has cheated, he's gonna make her look bad because is guilty of something wrong. . He if he didn't then he's ticked off as heck and will either take the high road or be on the low road with her.
OMG he's quick to run to the divorce courts. She should have went to him and not tell the whole family about their troubles. It's not their business. I don't know why couple can't communicate with each other. It's one of the most important things in a relationship. He has every right to be upset.