Marriage advice..?

i got married to my high school sweat heart after 2 yrs of long distance relationship we both love each other...but one day i was checking his mails and i found a mail where he had written to some escort service asking for rates...the date was like when we were in long distance relationship....when i confronted him abt the mail he said...he was curious...and he mailed to knwo how much they may ask and stuff...we fought a lot regarding that and he kept on explaining and i kept on building up suspicion...its been alomst 1 1/2 yrs and i still keep worrying...and he gets mad now if i ever bring up ane trust issues..he has been extremeley loving and he adores me and he puts up with me..he is a real sensitive guy.


but i keep wondering this.if by ane chance has he cheated on me while we were having long distance relation..?i know he has used lots of porn and stuff..?


what would u gals think ?if he has cheated then would u break up ur marriage now?or u forget the whole thing %26amp;focus on presentMarriage advice..?
Wow, you must be really bored to be festering on this after all this time. NO...if he cheated on me during the long distance relationship I would not break up with him. It's what he's been doing the last 1 1/2 years that would matter to me. Let it go so you can be happy with your life RIGHT NOW.Marriage advice..?
I think you should listen to your gut instinct. It's telling you something. You need to get your husband to go to marraige couseling so you and he can work on your issues. The trust issue will not go away by itself. You shouldn't give up on your marraige because of this, try couseling and see if it can help first. If he won't go, go alone. Good luck !!
Thats a tough question, 1st you have to look at it like, if you can spend the rest of you life with him even if you might have thought he cheated (i sort of feel this same way with my fiance but different scenario), but you can't keep bringing it up if you want the relationship to move forward, if you can't stop bringing it up, it will make it worse. You will get bitter and you will start hating him. If you can just concentrate in the future and see where that leads and then he does that again, then you break it off, at least you are giving him your heart, thats the way i look at it.
Don't let petty suspicions ruin your marriage.Accept his explanation and try to put that episode at the back of your mind. That was a one time case which does not really necessitate bringing in the artillery.Men often use porn and stuff to get off...look at the internet, this place is crowded with men trying to stay sexually aroused. If he has cheated while you were in a long distance relationship...(which i don't think he did given the circumstantial evidence that you gave) then let it be. However, leave the past behind.From this time on, there will never be any long distance relationship for you, that is what you should tell yourself.





In relationships, sometimes it helps to have a fair amount of paranoia. But don't let it ruin you, my friend.Instead try to be what your husbands wants you to be. Maybe that is what's missing too. Wives in order for husbands to refrain from looking the other way should try to assume the many roles that a man needs...like being a mother, a sister, a friend, a whore(so he won't have time to find one as he has the perfect whore waiting for him at home), a confidante etc. at the same time so he won't have any reason to look the other way. I remember giving this same advise to a good friend of mine...a year later I visited the couple and boy, they we're really hot for each other. When I asked my friend how she did it all, she showed me her secret wardrobe. An array of sexy outfits...a sheer Geisha attire; a short french maid's uniform; a see through ballerina outfit...and a whole lot more. This is one hell of an expense to maintain a relationship but for some women, we go to the extremes just to keep the love of our life.





You could do this if you're comfortable or you could watch porn with him which is much better. But don't fight with him over a sexual vanity. Men are mostly made that way with their hearts hanging between their legs(the other one purely for pumping blood)..see their balls?... doen't it look to you like a smaller version of the heart...(just kidding as an afterthought)
Accept him or divorce him.
Just because he may have checked out some porno or got curious about a web sight doesn't mean he did or would cheat on you.


If he is such a good guy and shows you the love you need then hang in there and try to let the past go.
you are ruining your life, why are you so sensitive about something in past while he is loving you now.


you are making mistake, during high school boys are very curious about everything regarding sex and you should not blame him for that, i understand from your story that he is pretty good guy