Okay,the marriage is over but can't split till we sell house. Have different bedrooms! HELP!!! ADVICE!!!?

We get along well, but the reason for our breakup is one that I will never get over. THIS IS A MESS AND I NEED SOME WISDOM, FOLKS!!!Okay,the marriage is over but can't split till we sell house. Have different bedrooms! HELP!!! ADVICE!!!?
Hi. I am in EXACTLY the same position as you. We are separating and cannot afford for one of us to move out. He lives in the basement, I still have the old bedroom and the main floor of the house is shared. We take 'access' of our son as if we were separated. He has him one weekend, I have him the next weekend. (We cannot go out the three of us, as we would kill each other). We are working very hard on paying off our debts in order for us to be able to completely separate. We give ourselves a strict budget of $100 every two weeks. The groceries, gas, mortgage etc all comes out of a joint account. Anything over an above that, our little treats, comes out of our own money. If we feel that it should come out of the joint account we have to justify why to the other party. It is a very good way to stop those impulse spends. Just keep working at it, and understand that eventually you will be in a position to separate, but it will take determination and understanding on both sides.Okay,the marriage is over but can't split till we sell house. Have different bedrooms! HELP!!! ADVICE!!!?
He who lacks wisdom, he should ask it of God... James 1:5





I don't claim to know or want to know the reason for the breakup but oh yes you will get over it... voluntarily or involuntarily. If you try and hold on to it, it'll eat you alive and it will not be worth the suffering unforgiveness will bring to you in the long haul. Get over it!!!!
Why can't you split before the house sells ?





It will all be handled through a lawer, and they will give you your share when the sale goes through.





There is no obvious reason to stay under present conditions.
Sit back, take a deep breath and TRY to chill.





Whatever has happened its obviously too big to get over so you need to bide your time and wait for the house to sell. I know it's hard and all you will want to do is escape but there isn't an easy fix for this one.





Good Luck.
I had my ex move in to be the nanny so I could work. We slept next door to eachother. Now I have a house with a basement suite and he lives down there.





Roomates. Make a schedule if you don't like to be around eachother. You can both find a couple of nights a week to stay somewhere else or at least be out until bedtime, so you can give eachother some space. If you have two bathrooms the only thing you are sharing is the kitchen.
how do you mean you can't split until you sell the house... why do people use houses and kids for excuses... you say y'all get along well then where is the problem... if you are still living under the same roof then you must have some type of feeling still there... the house isn't what's holding you together... you both need to sit and talk maybe not now but later you can come to some type of agreement where you can work things out...
You said it is over and you are in separate bedrooms. Consider the ex-spouse your roommate until the house is sold. You can come and go as you please without permission. You can hang out together if you like. It's just a step that you have to take slowly, at least your not put out like other spouses.





Keep you the getting along and things will go smoothly.
Assuming you have no kids, just move out. Make sure you continue your shared responsibilities for upkeep of the property.