Relationship Advice Needed- 3yrs no ring, no thrills about marriage, what should I do?

Relationship Advice Needed- 3yrs no ring, no thrills about marriage, what should I do? Leave or Stay?


He's 33 I am 27 smart%26amp;pretty.





I have been with my bf for 3 yrs this month. On the first date I told him that I want to be married one day and maybe have kids, and for him to please not waste my time if those are not things that he wants. That wasn't to say I wanted it with him, I just dont want to date a person with different goals.





So its been 3 yrs and I am ready to apply to Bschool this yr so I am not in a rush to get married, I can wait until I finish if I must, but I asked him for a promise ring, just something to say we are truly committed and that one day, when we are in a better position, he will be ready to marry me.





It has been a problem, he is like I will buy the ring, but I dont want to promise something and one day dont come thru???


I thought we had a great relationship and after 3 yrs with a person you would be comfortable enough to give a friggin prmise rinRelationship Advice Needed- 3yrs no ring, no thrills about marriage, what should I do?
after 3 years you should know what way your relationship is moving. do you want to wait another 3 years to find out he still doesn't want marriage? i don't think there is any significance in a promise ring. you have already promised to be committed in a 3 year relationship. he should either get you an engagement ring and have a long engagement or you should move on........Relationship Advice Needed- 3yrs no ring, no thrills about marriage, what should I do?
For a smart girl, you are not acting very smart in this matter,. Why put your life on hold for a man who is dragging his feet after 3 years? YOu have to ASK for a ring? C'mon gf...you are worth so much more than that. Say your peace..and move on.
Hon, do you think that what you are going is ok? I mean, lets suppose tomorrow he buys you the ring and gives you your promise - is that a promise you would like? A forced one... Plus whether there is a ring or not doesn't make any difference for me. In your place, I tell him that I don't require him to promise me anything and I'd apologize for demanding it in the first place. The fastest way to kill love is by demanding it. Be very careful. Oh, and if he hadn't gotten the hint in a couple of months, then maybe you should talk to your friends (because they know the situation better than us). I mean, what if he doesn't feel financially secure yet? Or what if he associates getting married with having kids together in like a year or two (then his reason not to want to get married would be to not give you ideas that he wants kids). These are just suggestions. There are many other alternatives. Better ask your friends, and listen to your heart. Yet, don't ever force promises!
Promise rings are a waste. The guy could give you one just to keep you happy for a while longer but he is not lying to you. I would say that you need to move on. He enjoys being with you but he is just not THAT into you. Three years is plenty long enough to know.
he is practical and so, not sure if he can give u all that u deserve (or want)... not a good thing for you, but in long-term, what u need? financial security or a partner who will support you no matter what happen? practically, financial security in today's world wont come unless until u both keep ur selfish motives out and plan life together
To say ';I don't want to promise something and one day don't come thru'; are not the words of a man who is head over heels in love with you. I would take that as the words of a man who likes you and enjoys your company, but he is not serious about you longterm. Men know within a few dates whether they are going to marry you. If he is hedging after all this time, you know he's never seriously considered you as his future wife. You need to be with someone who is so sure of his feelings that he can hardly wait to put that ring on your finger. That's how good marriages begin. Good luck.
Sounds like He doesn't want to be tied to one person.


Move on /w your life, You deserve someone who really cares.
sometimes men are hesitant and need to be pushed. sometimes they just won't commit. if he does not seem happy you may want to move on to someone who appreciates you more.
I was with my husband for four years before we got hitched. You can't force marriage. It will happen when and if it is supposed to. No sooner.
Move on. He is not interested. Don't waste anymore time with him. You deserve better, girll!!
he sounds as if he is not ready to commit ,it happens at least you know so you can plan your life
There are two separate issues here: no ring, no thrills, and wanting something flashy.





If there was no ring after 3 years but talk and excitement about marriage, then I would tell you to stick in there. Three years is a long time to just leave someone over a piece of jewelry and as long as you are discussing it and on the same page, it will happen.





If he doesn't want to get married, I would tell you to move on.





But I think that you fall into the last issue: wanting something flashy to show off. If that's the case, then tell him to go to Walmart, spend $60, and you'll have your flashy ring.
its time to end the relationship sweetie,


he isn't planning to marry you, not now and not ever.





SORRY but this is the truth





Gl with school





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You just got your answer from him. Let me repeat it back to you so you can see it better: I DO NOT WANT TO PROMISE YOU SOMETHING THAT ONE DAY WILL NOT COME TRUE! I DO NOT WANT TO MAKE A PROMISE--A COMMITTMENT TO YOU. What more do you need to know? If this is the way he feels now, there will no miracle for you tomorrow. Time to move on.