Marriage Advice Needed?

I am about to get married and my parents have given me a choice of marrying an Indian girl from the USA or from back home.





I have some minor concerns. The first that the kind of girl I am looking for will be a little hard to find in the USA for the simple fact that there are not as many Indian girls in the USA. The second issue is the difference of thought of an Indian being born and raised in the USA vs an Indian being born and raised in India. My friends tell me that a girl born and raised from India might not be as open to different things in husband and wife relations.








A little about myself.





I am a Muslim before anything else and do take my religion very seriously and I am from a religious family.





I am a Indian (Punjabi) born and raised in the USA.





I have studied Indian history on my free time and have learned to read and write in Urdu, Punjabi and Hindi.





I am 25 years old and I am good looking.





I have a MBA (Masters in Business Administration) with a concentration in information technology.





I am working for the federal government in the USA with a salary of 75,000 USA dollars which will be 100,000 dollars + in another year and a half.








What I am looking for in my wife





From a religious family.





18- 28 years old and really good looking





At least masters education (MA), prefer in a profession (business, engineer, law or medicine)





My wife can work or stay home but if she has spent that much time in her studies then I prefer she apply her knowledge in a work setting.





Try to be as least bias as possible and tell me if you were born and raised in India, the West or born in India and currently living in the West. Please also tell me if you are Muslim or not.





Thank YouMarriage Advice Needed?
First thing i am muslim girl born in Dubai lived there for 21 years and have shifted to mumbai from the past 3 years. Frankly today's indian girl is well aware of all aspects of life and she is equally open to understanding the requirements of a modern day marriage also keeping in mind her traditonal way of living. i somehow feel that for a back ground of religious parents you should settle with a girl raised in India cause i feel girls born and brought up here have that balance of following the religion but at the same time they are open to the modern way of living.





but the most important thing is that when finding a girl from india see to it that she is educated and is from a sound financial back ground so that she will not diificulties to adjust to your kind of living.





this i am telling from my point of view.Marriage Advice Needed?
yeah bro nadia and rachel sounding sense.But nadia said about financial background of girl that in my view doesnt matter u are not marrying a financial aspect of a girl but her so please discard that as there are many ppl who cannot marry coz of money coz of this attitude.


All the best.
get a good Indian girl from a big city. That iws the best.





And dude, you sound like an intelligent guy, get out of Islam - read this - you owe it to yourself





www.faithfreedom.org
You may be better off getting one from India. I hope your not looking for a wife on here.
hello wasim,





well your wish sounds very fair and generous enough. marriage is a very big commitment of life. It brings loads of responsibility on the shoulders of two people who are to share their life through their entire


period of marriage until ';death do apart'; . Believe me wasim this is true.





First of all girls have changed and adapted a lot with the modern generation and technology. Unless you want to find some bride from a remote village in india , you will find brides who are educated and able to follow their importance of religious norms even in this era. Dont worry you will find some one special where you will feel your wavelength hit instantly with her. This is true . 100%. myslef being brought up in dubai for 21 years and married to my husband from India brought for 26 years, didnt clash our religious upbringing and thought process. It took a little time to adjust to our specific likings though but that is worth the time you will enjoy after you marry her.





places like dubai and saudi have well brought up muslim girls. Im telling you this since even though me being a hindu i grew in a muslim culture and enjoyed doing so. The amount of importance to religion they taught and instilled in us helped me so much in my marriage life. India is also a very good place to start, it is nothign different other places. only thing is that girls from gulf countries would have already known what living abroad feels like unlike girls from India.


you seem to be a quite and humble person with the mail youve sent us to help you. you will definetly need somebody like you or somebody a little chirpy to keep you smiling through the day after your busy lifestyle.








time span for the process 6-9 months till the marriage .








here is simple recipe for you to follow to find your other half:





proposal vs mentally match:





select a proposal that sort of matches your nature and your


mental calibre.





natural beauty vs artificial make over:





always natural beauty will hit you hard. there is always a mystery behind innocence and natural looks which will awaken your heart with a spark. dont fall for a trap of loads of cosmetics and mural paintings of the face. and vice versa.





speech is golden :





after the selection , make sure you talk to her either by mail or phone.


this will help you to assess where both of you stand in your relation . It will also indicate as to whether your ready to move on ahead and share your life with her.





elimination process:





once you have selected the proposals and spoken to them, you will realize truly with whom you and your heart feels comfortable. this will tell you where your heart and soul truly belongs.








finalization:





after they parents work is done, start your romance. there should 6- 8months gap for your marriage. this will enhance the love for both of you, time needed to understand special likings fro each on of you and know little little things , special moments that will be cherished by both of us life long. believe me this time period is the hardest but it brings out the best in both of you. all you do in this time frame is love and listen everythign each on of you has to say. did i say fights and little misunderstanding are included ! heheh.. its part of it too in moderation.apologize with out any ego . forgiveness is the biggest key to a girls heart..





final day: marriage





if you arrive a week prior to marriage GET HER SOMETHING . that is going to be the most special thing in life till her last breath. many men forget that little part and it is the most special way to impress your would be. call her ans speak to her. there is always a lot of restrictions when the date nears but still try to. especially late night sneaky calls will be really enjoying. finally when you get married just put in so much love that you will feel there would nobody to love HER than YOU





Honey moon : testing period


arrange a date of marriage and honey moon after you know her monthly cycle as you do want any added tension. select a surprise destination and enjoy your lives to gether without a tag along unlike me when we had parents accompany us due to safety, but we were saved by my sister in law. pheew!


enjoy and understand each other slowly!!!no fights during this time and this will etch a scar on you.. so listen and argue healthily. doesnt hurt to give a up a little.....








sorry for the long writeup , but i hope this will help you! I wish you the very best wasim . though i havent seen in you person , but with all my best wishes i send you this reply..marriage is not rocket science..


But the time taken to find and unite your heart yearns to be!! It take a lot to be husband beyond parents, friends and siblings. A husband make that special bond for a wife. In turn to share and hold and give solace you need that special girl who can only be your wife! good luck


with your hunt!!





cheers wasim!
I think it's great that you want to find a wife, but the approach you're taking will make a lot of women feel like running far away in the other direction. You should really try to get to know women, and date them because of who they are, not because they have a masters, are good looking, etc. and you think your parents would approve. Women like to feel like you are madly in love with them, not that they are just someone who would make your parents happy. I suggest you strike up a conversation with some nice women at work, or at one of your Indian History classes. That will get you a lot further.
marriages are made in heaven, by miths. Best if luck! Indian girls are family oriented and husband care worth of. Religious family will be a very nice living and helpful type in India.


give importance to life and selecting life partner, it will be a heaven to you. Then every thing will go ok!. and pleasant.!


Some religions are thinking they are the great? such type of perversions should be avoided.


adjustment in life is more important than helping.These are all the loving memoirs of marriage.


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