If you're not comfortable doing it - don't. Shared goals are very important in marriage - if you can't share each other's visions for the future, you aren't right for each other.Marriage advice?
look, this is one thing that i ahve seen...when you sacrifice yourself to help your husband, chances are at the end, you'll be replaced with someone else. If you're having any doubts, dont marry.
I guess it will probably come down to ';Nothing ventured, nothing gained';.
If you go with him to Grenada and share getting into $200,000 worth of debt, you have the potential to be married to a Dr. that will eventually bring in the big money (possibly $200,000 to $1,000,000 a year depending on how good he is and what his specialty is).
However, if you're not willing to make some sacrifices and help support him while he is going though his hardships to become a successful Dr., then don't expect him to come looking for you once he gets there without you...
u hav to change the cycle of ure relationships,ure lif will b a lot better,what if u support this guy for 5 10 years then he leaves u,he could at least get apart time job dont carry the burden all by ure self.good luck
Nope..........I wouldnt...........not even for love......Ask him to please return to you, if he's still interested.
you need to call off the wedding....1) your own doubts tell you so...2) why would you want to support someone for 2 years 3) $200,000 in debt is ridiculous, he needs to save up his own money to go to school and plan on working while he is in school.....
you should not go through with this......all it's going to do is leave you resentful, then possibly divorced and liable for half of all the debt.....RUN, follow your gut feeling!!!!!
NO!!!
If it is real, it will still be there when he is through with school. Why should you be his meal-ticket til then? Stay here, and live your life...and see what happens.
I would break it off. Too many changes just for him.
If you are having doubts you probably shouldn't get married to him.. You won't be happy if you do not want to go there. You shouldn't have to support both of you. I wouldn't go through with the marriage. That is a lot of money to be in debt. Wait until he is finished school and has a job so he can pay off his debt himself. I don't think you should have to pay that. There are a lot of men out there that marry a woman and go through medical school. The woman pays for his schooling and then he drops her for someone else. Good Luck at what you decide on. Take Care and God Bless.
If you're having doubts that you'll be happy, don't do it. If you don't love this man enough to follow him anywhere and do whatever it takes to support his ambitions, don't do it. You will resent him and the relationship will be doomed. Sorry to be so cut and dry, but it really is that simple.
You need to sit down and discuss your concerns with him. As for moving with him,try looking at it as an adventure and an opportunity. The debt should be looked at as an investment. If he goes to school he'll be earning money when he's done and you can take a break then. If you don't want to be this supportive then you should back out now. Marriage is about taking care of eachother, supporting eachother, trusting eachother and a few more ';eachother'; things that both partners have to be ready for.
If you really have doubts, get a prenuptial agreement so that if he dumps you after graduating, he'll have to reimburse you for all you did that helped him get through med school. And that doesn't mean just you monetary contribution - how about helping him study, cooking %26amp; cleaning for him, etc.
Also, a wife follows her husband, and if the shoe were on the other foot, he should follow you.
Well if you don't want to go to Grenada and he's going and you don't want to support him. Then I would say don't do it.Do not start a marrage off by doing something you don't want to do. You will regret it. I would tell him about your concerns and maybe put off the engagement till he gets back. Long distance relationships can work out. Mine did. It made us much closer. If its true love it will last if it does'nt well ....
Well, baby what does your HEART tell U to do? Are you listening to your HEART because your HEART never lies. Listen very closely so U won't have any REGRETS!!!
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Listen, if you're having doubts and he doesn't hear you out I would rethink spending the rest of my life with him because that debt now becomes your debt. I can't tell you whether or not to marry him, but i can tell you that if he doesn't care about what you have to say about it, that isn't someone i would wan tto be with.
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